Bahagia dengan bodek
Tuesday, July 21, 2015 ❤ 1:47 AM ❤ 0 Comment
"Nak suka abang (si lelaki) kena baik dengan kakak-adik dia" What do you expect? I beg them for their abang or adik lelaki? Bukan aku. Bukan jenis aku jadi attention seeker buat baik apetah lagi amek hati. If perempuan lain buat baik amek hati bagai dengan kau thats good. Nak baik dengan aku silakan. Taknak boleh pergi. Bukan aku taknak jadi baik just its different between baik yang sedia ada dengan lakonan jadi baik.
"Eee belagaknya statement" Oh you may say that. In reality i can tell how much happier you were when you simply be yourself than be someone who push yourself to be somebody which is not you. All because this one guy you love. You were living with him, not them. (ni aku yang cakap)
Kalau bagi pihak ibu si lelaki pulak, yes. This one you have to be nice even when you're not. Since you want what you need. Be nice is different from bodek. Senyum pun dah kira nice while bodek you act or tell them lie (great things about you which is not pun) Be nice is pandai sesuaikan diri dengan orang tua dia, be more productive dekat dapur especially. Even if you're not because you were practicing. Lama lama nanti akan terbiasa. Besides, you dont have to push yourself beyond the "bodek" limit to win their heart sebab orang orang tua ni dah makan garam banyak dah. They know which one is bodek and which one is trying to be nice because usually be nice is you put an effort to have a place while bodek is you do good things infront but you talk or do bad things behind and inside your heart. Ala macam drama novel tu uhuk. (ni mammma aku yang cakap since shes a mother tho)
"Lain bahagia yang dipaksa dengan bahagia yang semulajadi hadir." Jujur in being nice is likeeee you felt satisfied after what you've done even dengan kritikan sekalipun. While not jujur in being nice is you cant grab the happiness since you dont have that kerelaan. Plus, dalam hati pun nak kutuk macam macam. Especially girls nowdays kan. (I admit somehow)
And whats different between "be yourself" and "acting" good?
Oh ya, this one is based on my moms'. Sure always be yourself when ONLY you have a good manner, hormat orang tua and memang terdidik dengan baik. Not when you got this ohmaigod punya perangai, rambut bekaler, pakai pun tetat tetat, kuku panjang, bahasa yang nahas bila dengar (not pointing at anybody) but ask any mom that exist, are they really want that kind of appearence to be with their son? even if their son pun macamtu, but at least if they have this angle like, this angle can guide their son. InshaAllah.
Meanwhile acting good issss you be more proper when you know that you have this "sakit hati" punya perangai. Acting good here is you let his parents know you're not good enough, but you're trying to pleased them. No lying that you're so good in all aspects but put efforts and show them you're not that bad. Its different to be yourself when you have "bad" attitude than you have a bad attitude but you turning slowly to be good. Just to please someone because one day, you will be a mother and you will know whats the best for your son. (Sayangnya, kita tak sempat nak buat macamtu dekat mak kita. kan?)
Thats my mom's statement.
Apa je beza jujur baik dengan bodek?
You can obviously recognize these two when a jujur one is more likely still do good when it seems hard and always be like penyabar punya orang (macam kak ipar aku). Since my mom is one of perfectionist type, shes very particular and very "banyak songeh" punya orang, kak ipar aku ni sentiasa hormatkan my mom even dia dikritik. She still smile and act simple. (what makes me adore her.)
Meanwhile bodek usually can be seen with "money type" kich ching! haha semuanya boleh beli dengan duit. Beli barang, beli ini itu tapi mengharapkan sesuatu balik. Yes you may buy something tanda penghargaan but not all the time lah (my mom once said this). Oh ya lagi satu iss rasa perlu dihormat sebagai "maam besar" kerana status pendidikan yang bagus (degree, master bla bla). Orang yang kaki bodek will rebel bila kena kritik. They cant accept critizes. They feel like apa dia dah buat tak cukup bagus?! And ungkit everything they've done! Because they did for something.. Not for free.